Manage your expectations for online dating success

Online Dating Expectations

There’s no doubting that online dating is here to stay. A couple of years ago the statistics reported that 1 in 5 couples met through online dating. Today the figure is closer to 1 in 3 with more and more people jumping on the bandwagon and looking for love online.

So is it worth the effort? Is online dating all it’s cracked up to be and is it really the best way to find love in 2013.

The answer really depends on your expectations. Are they set too high? Do you imagine online dating to be a giant department store where you can choose exactly what you like from thousands of products, take it home, try it on and then return it if it doesn’t quite fit. OR do you see it as a place where you can be somebody else for a while. A place where, behind the comfort of your browser window, you can create the perfect alter-ego and be somebody you’ve always wanted to be. You might present yourself as being taller, funnier, better looking or richer in the hope of finding the ultimate prize.

However on the flip side, you might have set your expectations too low? Do you imagine online dating being like a disco where only the lonely, sad and untouchable people of society hang out. A grotesque place of desperado’s all eagerly glued to their inbox just waiting for a catch like you to stumble in?

Whilst both of these viewpoints are extreme, the reality is that most people will take a little from both in order to create their own expectations. They’ll imagine that some people are desperate and they’ll also imagine that it’s like a candy store where, because people are desperately looking, they’ll be able to clean up.

So the simple advice is, manage your expectations and you’ll have a great time. Online dating is just like regular dating, there’s some great people and there’s some challenging people, there’s some people who stretch the truth and some who maybe hide behind a few white lies but give it time and it’ll treat you well.