How much effort are you prepared to put into your love life? How much time are you going to commit to finding the perfect partner and what exactly are you gonna do about it?
Historically you didn’t have much choice? You were limited by the circumstance of location and communication. You couldn’t just pick up the phone directory and call all the girls in it asking them for a date. No, you had to be patient and be in the right place at the right time. Who knows whether this method was more favorable than nowadays. You’re choices then were more limited but we all seemed to find somebody … eventually.
In 2012 you can spend as much or as little time looking for the perfect date as you like. Free dating websites and indeed all dating sites have made online dating easy and potentially all consuming. You could, if you wanted look for love 24/7. Yip, that’s right, while the rest of us sleep you could be searching, browsing and refining your search criteria and nudging potential matches whilst they are asleep.
It’s all about the amount of effort you are prepared to commit to finding love. It’s also good to remember that once you’ve found love on dating websites the 24/7 effort shouldn’t stop there. We don’t want to see you putting your feet up and eating billtong on the couch in your underpants please. Love and romance takes effort and the longer you’re together the more effort, time and commitment it takes. A popular thing to do for long term couples is create a date night. Choose one day a week and make it a special night. Get a babysitter, get dressed up and pretend it’s the first date all over again. Don’t talk about the kids, or work, or your mother-in-law. Park all the domesticity and remember what it was like to meet each other all that time ago.
As time goes by we all get bogged down in domesticity and it’s hard to see the person you fell in love with. Take time each week to reflect, look back and remember why you’re together.