We recently encountered a dating story that sounds all too familiar. Boy meets girl, boy falls for girl, girl falls for boy. Boy rushes in, girl steps back. Boy gets confused, girl gets irritated. Boy gets more confused, girl goes cold. Does it sound familiar? Yes, of course it does, we’ve all got a similar dating story tucked away somewhere. They didn’t write Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus for nothing you know. Dating is a tough old game and the older and wiser we get the less flexible we seem to become. We know what’s going on, we know that women need empathy and not sympathy and we know that their moods revolve around the moon and we also know that men are simple creatures. The rules for dating a man could easily be written on a single side of A4. But still, and this is something we constantly bang our heads against a wall about is that we still don’t understand what or where the other is coming from. And, as we get older, we don’t really care. All we know is that they are wrong (and slightly bonkers for even thinking it in the first place) and that we are right. And so the world keeps turning and generations upon generations don’t learn and we all listen to sad songs, get married, get divorced and continue to be baffled by the opposite sex.
However. Let’s not do what everybody else does shall we. Let’s be different. Let’s actually listen to the opposite sex, put ourselves in their shoes and god forbid apologise and admit that we are wrong and they are right. (Even when we’re really not sure). Let’s all eat some humble pie and stop making hard work of something which should and can be amazing, beautiful and spiritual at the same time. It’s called dating. Come on people … let’s pull ourselves together, stop playing games and start enjoying ourselves.